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Monday Matters: Working towards a life full of calmness and positivity – simple ideas to try today

Posted on Oct 2, 2023Oct 1, 2023 by Laura

Today I’m sharing some easy self-help strategies to enable you to create a life which is both calmer and more positive. I hope you find the tips useful and they motivate you to make a change or two going forward.

Be kind to yourself

Showing self-compassion, practising self-care and giving yourself grace when you make mistakes or are struggling with the stresses of modern day living is an important and helpful first step to take in developing a more positive life. If a good friend of yours was finding things difficult right now, you would offer them support and encouragement, sympathy and well wishes, yet when we find ourselves in a similar situation do we behave in the same way? Here’s a few ways to be kind to ourselves (and they don’t need to be reserved for when we are down or struggling with our mental health either):

Forgive yourself often – for making mistakes, not being perfect, not being super productive etc. Whatever you beat yourself up about, STOP!
Keep yourself hydrated – this simple act of self-care is important and will help you feel your best throughout the day
Listen to your body – if it needs rest, a day off, a holiday, a break from chores, a lie in etc. provide exactly that.
Explore how you’re feeling mentally and why – try a spot of journalling or talk to a close friend, then, if need be, take appropriate steps to remedy the situation.
Eat well – eating a balanced diet full of fresh produce, wholegrains and all of the vitamins and minerals you need is a great way to look after yourself. Yes, you shouldn’t deny yourself the occasional treat, but eating a predominately healthy diet will help you maintain good energy levels, restful sleep and better mood.
Get some exercise – you don’t need to lift weights at the gym or pedal the exercise bike for hours each week, do something you enjoy whether it’s yoga, pilates, a walk in the countryside or playing outside with your dog. Exercise releases feel good hormones as well as keeping you in good shape.
Celebrate your achievements – think about what you’ve achieved this week / month / year and give yourself a pat on the back. Even better, treat yourself to some kind of reward such as a bunch of flowers, a new notebook or something else that’s been on your wishlist for a while.

Be kind to others

Small acts of kindness towards others can have an enormous impact on both on the giver and receiver. Just something simple like holding a door open for someone who has their hands full or letting someone who is only buying one item go before you in the queue for groceries is enough for benefits such as brighter mood, lower stress levels, feelings of connection and belonging to the community and improved self-esteem and confidence.

Release your inner creativity

No matter how busy your day is, there’s always at the very least a small window of opportunity to get creative (try putting your phone in another room for half an hour!). Whether it’s doing some colouring in and choosing colours which complement each other, developing a poem about your experiences, doing some seasonal doodling in your bullet journal or creating a mood board for your living room, anything which uses your imagination or original ideas to make something is a boost to your creative side. And even if you don’t see yourself as the creative type, trying out different expressive activities will help you develop this part of yourself which I promise is lurking inside somewhere! Engaging in creative pursuits is wonderful for bring calmness and tranquility as well as a sense of achievement. It’s also a lovely way to practice self care.

Develop an attitude of gratitude

I write about gratitude in a lot of my wellbeing posts here on my blog but it is with good reason. Being grateful for what you have and celebrating ways in which you are very lucky has proven health benefits such as being better able to cope with adversity, enjoying improved sleep and immunity, building stronger relationships with others (particularly if you show gratitude for family and friends) and generally feeling much more positive and happy. Feeling gratitude and expressing your appreciation for things in your life is a very spiritual practice, creating a feeling of ease and contentment.

Be more mindful

Mindfulness is all about paying more attention to the present moment, focusing on your current thoughts and feelings and what is going on around you right now. Some examples of how this might manifest itself in your life include:

meditation and breathwork
paying full attention to the little things you do each day as part of your routines such as taking a shower, brushing your teeth, eating your breakfast, making your bed, brushing your hair or getting dressed. This will help you to change the focus from rumination about the past or worrying about the future
taking a walk in nature and becoming really conscious of your immediate surroundings – use your five senses to explore the environment
working on one thing at a time – avoid trying to multi-task (which is a complete myth anyway as you can read here)
eat mindfully – really pay attention to what you’re eating, how it tastes, how it feels in your mouth, how it is making you feel (this is also good for making sure your eat slowly and stop when you start to feel full and satisfied)
use the 5,4,3,2,1 grounding technique to bring you back to the present moment (this is particularly useful if you start to become anxious about something)
do some journalling – writing your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a journal is a great way to slow down and become aware of how things are for you right now
try movement meditation – most of us associate meditation with sitting or lying very still and focusing on the breathe. However, this is just one example of how to meditate. Check out this article for seven popular styles of movement which are meditative in their nature.

Start a slower and more relaxing morning routine

Your morning routine has the power to set you up for a calm, happy and productive day or leave you stressed out, tired and wanting to go back to bed. For a gentle start to your day, try the following tips:

prepare for your day the night before – check your planner to see what you have scheduled for tomorrow, write a list of intentions for the next day or choose your priorities from your to do list, choose your outfit and check to see if it needs ironing or unfolding to let the creases drop, if you are going out somewhere, pack your bag ready.
wake up early – plan to get up at a time which gives you the opportunity to get ready without rushing (this might involve going to bed earlier or other tweaks to your evening routine to encourage restful sleep)
open your curtains or blinds to let natural light in, or, during winter, use a sunrise simulation lamp to mimic the effects.
try journalling – this could be completing the morning entry of The Five Minute Journal like I do, doing morning pages or making note of a few things or people you are grateful for
avoid reaching for your phone – checking our phones as soon as we get up is an automatic reaction for most of us but it has been shown to have negative effects on the brain. Issues include heightened stress and anxiety levels, poor performance levels at work, lack of productivity as well as loss of our precious time. Instead, eat your breakfast mindfully and slowly, take yourself outside to get some morning light, do some gentle stretches or record your thoughts, feelings or daily gratitudes.
choose a slow living activity to put you in the right mindset – read a chapter from a motivational book, listen to a podcast, make a nutritious breakfast, savour your morning coffee (rather than downing it when it’s too hot or going cold), sit outside and watch the sunrise, close your eyes and focus on your breathing or flick through your favourite magazine. Make the most of rising early before you start to tackle your to do list or head off to work.

Final words…

I hope you’ve found the above tips useful and are motivated to try some of them. I know that making lifestyle changes can be quite difficult and require time and commitment. You might want to try to transform many aspects of your current life but doing too much at once will most definitely lead to overwhelm and the temptation to give up. I recommend choosing one thing to focus on and, where possible, enlist the help and support of your partner or a close member of the family or a good friend. I also encourage you to regularly evaluate and reflect on how things are going for you and consider if the small change you’ve made is having the desired effect. This will help you to refocus and serve as a good reminder of why you started.

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Setting up my Bullet Journal for October 2023: Autumn theme

Posted on Sep 28, 2023 by Laura

This month, I’ve been using my Cricut Joy to make stickers to decorate my October spreads and other pages as I start a new bullet journal, this time from Notebook Therapy. I bought lots of sheets of printable vinyl adhesive backed paper and explored using my cutting machine along with a hack I found on YouTube to create print and cut images. The process has been frustrating at times and quite a few sheets have unfortunately ended up in the bin as the offset around the images is sometimes off by a millimetre or two but I’ve made lots of little stickers that I’m pleased with and are worthy of a place in my new notebook.

My gorgeous new journals for the Autumn time – such a contrast!

Front cover

In order to have a good range of images at my disposal, I signed up for a free trial of Canva Pro. I have Cricut Access but I’ve found that the images aren’t as good on there as they’re mainly designed for cut files with coloured vinyl or iron on products. Canva Pro has so many amazing images and I’ve been spending time each day downloading themed pictures and patterns to make the most of my month of free use. For the cover, I typed into ‘autumn watercolour’ to get similar types of image. Each one was saved to a 3x3cm canvas which enabled me to reduce the size on Cricut Design Space before adding an offset. As you can probably see, none of the offsets are perfectly aligned but I think the finished stickers look okay. The image for the title was also found on Canva and a second layer was added with a calligraphy style font.

Photo credit: Laura Jones for Keeping It Creative

October calendar

For my calendar page, I simply searched ‘autumn’ and again saved each image on a canvas as above. I also find some border style images for the top and bottom of the title. After sticking them on, I regretted adding two as there was little room left to write the header but using my letter stamps worked out okay.

Weekly spreads

I decided to pre-prepare my spreads for October and went for a vertical Dutch door so that only one lots of decoration was required to either side. These washi style strips on either side are again borders from Canva Pro, this time with a pale colour background added in. I’m pleased with how my weeklies turned out and it will be nice to know that I don’t have to draw my set up for the week first thing on a Monday Morning. As my tasks are separate, I’ve only left a small amount of room for events on my daily sections. Hopefully these are big enough for anything I need to make note of.

Finances

In the excitement of creating some Dutch doors, I completely forgot about my finances spread so I’ve added it on after the weeklies. I love the hedgehog decor and there were actually about six different images on Canva to choose from which were clearly designed by the same artist.

Other spreads

As this is a new bullet journal, I’ve also created index pages, a future log (with Dutch doors and also little tabs) and some pages for Level 10 life reflection and goal setting. However, I’m yet to fill them in yet so it’s pointless me sharing them! I might share them on Instagram if I remember.

Final words …

I hope you enjoyed seeing my new BuJo and my spreads for October. I’m now totally addicted to making stickers and even have a themed set ready and waiting in a little handmade envelope for November. I’ve also started making Christmas themed ones too! I’m sure at some point I’ll go back to drawing my own images in my bullet journal but for now, I’m happy stickerating!

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A real life example of how a negative can lead to a number of positives to be grateful for

Posted on Sep 26, 2023Sep 27, 2023 by Laura

I talk about the importance of being grateful for things in your life regularly and today I want to tell a story which illustrates how something negative, in this case me being poorly yesterday, can lead to a number of positives and experiences for which I am hugely grateful. I hope you enjoy reading and it helps to show how we should be thankful for the little things rather than dwelling on the not so good.

Yesterday, I had a dodgy stomach with pain and bloating and although I tried to keep myself busy to keep my mind of the symptoms, I took myself off to bed and read my book later in the afternoon. I was really productive in the morning, but by lunchtime, I was feeling less enthusiastic. I also remembered that I had two fitness classes booked to make up for the fact I couldn’t do Pilates the week before.

At mid-day, I went to the gym for my legs, bums and tums class, as I would be charged £4 for non attendance or late cancellation, but in the end decided to go back home as doing stomach crunches and other tummy exercises wasn’t really a good idea and I didnt want to feel worse. I told several of my friends from the class on my way out and they sympathised and told me that they hoped I was better soon and had made the right decision to head home. I also saw the instructor who asked me if I was okay and told me to curl up on the settee for the rest of the day. I left the gym feeling grateful for the kind words of friends I’ve made in my classes and less guilty that I was missing my regular fitness class.

Before going home, I popped to the Sainsburys next door to pick up a few bland items for my lunch, namely some rice cakes and cheese and a tiny but indulgent caramel flavoured dessert. There were no small trolleys to be found in their usual location in the trolley park by the building, so I needed to go off searching for one. I saw an elderly man who was wondering what to do about the lack of smaller trolleys. I asked him if that is what he was after and told him to wait there as I could spy some across the car park. I hot footed it there and grabbed two before quickly wheeling them across the tarmac, passing one to the grateful gentleman with a smile. As he entered the supermarket, I heard him telling his wife about my good deed and, despite wanting to get home quickly, I felt good that I’d had a positive impact on his day.

But the best surprising positive of my day was yet to come!

As I’d spent most of the day indoors, I told my husband that I was going to sit outside on our back garden bench and get some fresh air. By this time, it was 8 o’clock and therefore dark but I love to sit and enjoy the peace and quite out there, whatever hour it is. In the late evening, we sometimes spot one of the frogs from our tiny wildlife pond and have seen other small creatures such as a mouse or a shrew. My husband said he would join me shortly and when he did, I enjoyed our chat about all sorts of things without any distractions such as our phones or tablets. However, all of a sudden, he paused and said really quietly “what on earth is that perched on top of the parasol?”. It was difficult to see with it being dark but I had brought a torch out with me and I shone it on the grass so it lit up the night a little. We were shocked, and amazed to see that it was a little tawny owl looking straight at us! It didn’t stay long as the torch light scared it but we watched it as it took flight, showing us its beautiful wing span in the moonlight. It was a wonderful experience for us, with us both being nature, wildlife and bird lovers and it made me so happy. It was a lovely end to our day and I was beaming inside about it for hours afterwards.

If I hadn’t been ill yesterday, none of these events would have happened and my day would probably have been relatively uneventful. I had so many highlights to write in my Five Minute Journal and I will remember our opportunity to see a tawny owl close up for a long time to come. I hope you enjoyed the story of my day and it has reminded you to keep looking for the positives however big or small they are.

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Embrace Your Journey: Living Your Best Life and Achieving Your Goals – Guest post by Linda Chase

Posted on Sep 19, 2023Sep 28, 2023 by Laura

Today, I’m sharing a second great blog post written by Linda Chase of Able Hire, this time discussing strategies to help you cultivate your best life and meet with success as you make your way towards your hopes and dreams for the future. I’m sure you’ll like the content as much as I did and will pick up some useful tips as you read. Enjoy!

As we navigate through life, we are constantly exploring ways to enhance our journey. The journey to live our best life and achieve our dreams is a continuous process that requires commitment, resilience, and a balanced approach. Here, Keeping it Creative presents eight key strategies you can incorporate right now to help you lead a fulfilled life and accomplish your aspirations.

Build your confidence through fashion

Confidence is a fundamental ingredient for success, and one way to boost it is through your personal style. Fashion can be an expression of your personality, serving as a confidence booster. Dressing in a way that makes you feel good about yourself can have a significant impact on your self-assuredness.

Cultivate resilience

Life is full of challenges, but the way we perceive and respond to these difficulties greatly impacts our growth. Embrace challenges as opportunities for learning and self-improvement. Develop coping strategies, like mindfulness or journaling, to overcome setbacks and bounce back stronger than before.

Embrace Self-Care

In our pursuit of goals, we often neglect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Make self-care a priority. Incorporate regular exercise into your schedule, practice mindfulness, and cultivate healthy eating habits. Pursue things that make you happy! If you love art, check out the fun options on Keeping it Creative. These small actions can significantly improve your overall well-being and productivity.

Foster Positive Energy

It’s important to surround yourself with positivity as much as possible wherever you are. If your family, roommates, or coworkers seem stuck in a negative mindset, take time to talk through what is going on and make it right. Then, you can cleanse the space with naturopathic cleaning remedies to reset the energy. You can even smudge with sage if you desire. It is hard to be at your best when you are surrounded by negativity, so take control of the energy around you!

Develop a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset – the belief that you can learn, improve, and evolve – is crucial for personal development. See failures not as dead-ends but as stepping stones towards success. In fact, anxiety and stress can be positive motivators to get out of our comfort zone and do something amazing! Regularly seek out opportunities for growth and learning, and embrace change as a necessary part of the journey.

Stay Curious

Curiosity acts as a catalyst for creativity and innovation, driving us towards our objectives. By committing to daily learning, be it through reading a new book, enrolling in an online course, or delving into a fresh hobby, we stimulate our minds. This practice of maintaining an active and engaged mind is a testament to the power of curiosity in fueling our personal and professional growth.

Network with Like-Minded Individuals

Surround yourself with people who share your values and aspirations. Build a network of supportive, motivating individuals who inspire you to keep moving forward. Exchanging ideas, collaborating on projects, and supporting each other’s journeys can significantly contribute to your overall success.

Keep a Clean Home

The condition of your living environment is a reflection of your mental well-being, and an organised, clean space can positively influence your mood, enhancing productivity and promoting tranquility. Concurrently, setting clear, manageable objectives offers essential direction and focus in your life’s journey. Regularly taking time to declutter and re-organise your physical space is as crucial as periodically reviewing and adjusting your goals for maintaining motivation. Both practices ensure you’re on the right path towards achieving a harmonious mental state and accomplishing your aspirations. Get the most out of your cleaning efforts by taking advantage of resources like Cleaner Digs.

Foster Meaningful Connections

Cherishing our connections with loved ones greatly enhances our overall happiness. It’s essential to prioritise time for gatherings, providing opportunities to fortify bonds and create lasting memories. Embrace technology with a free invitation maker, which simplifies the process of planning both impromptu and scheduled events. You can create invitations by modifying templates and adding your own text.

Search for Joy and Meaning

Living your best life and achieving your goals is a journey of resilience, self-care, growth, curiosity, and supportive networks. By incorporating these eight key strategies into your life, you’re setting yourself up for success. Remember, it’s not about the destination, but the journey, and every step you take towards betterment is a step closer to living your best life and achieving your dreams.

So there you have it, eight wonderful strategies for living your best life and embracing your journey towards your goals. I particularly enjoyed learning more about the effect your physical environment can have on your mental wellbeing. As some of my readers will know, I’m currently in the process of decluttering my craft room and my goal is to have a neat and well-organised space which is a joy to work and craft in. I’ve realised that I would benefit from re-prioritising this aspiration as Linda has reminded me that it’s key to boosting my mood, being more productive and feeling in control.

Both Linda and I would love to hear your thoughts on today’s guest post, especially which points resonated with you the most, so feel free to drop a comment below.

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Monday Matters: 23 screen free ways to relax and recharge

Posted on Sep 18, 2023Sep 24, 2023 by Laura

This week, I’m sharing 23 ways to relax and recharge, which don’t involve scrolling on your phone, looking at things on your laptop, or staring at your TV screen. Why not make a list of your favourites in your bullet journal or notebook and choose one next time you need a break from modern day technology? (that’s every day for most of us!)

23 screen free activities to help you relax and recharge

Try ‘Progressive muscle relaxation‘ This technique involves tensing and then relaxing your muscles one by one and is a great way to release tension. Check out this link for a straightforward explanation of how to do it.
Curl up with a good book or magazine and a beverage of your choice Depending on the time of year and the weather, you might read outdoors in your garden or local park, in your favourite chair with an ice cold glass of water or under a blanket with a hot chocolate.
Spend time in nature This is one of my favourite ways to relax at any time of year but the autumn months are particularly beautiful to be outdoors in a park, woodland or forest setting. Put your phone in your bag or coat pocket in case of emergencies and use your senses to explore your environment. As long as you’re suitably dressed for the weather, I can almost guarantee you’ll fall in love with the peace and quiet and feel restored afterwards.
Connect with family or friends Choose to connect with people who make you feel good and whose company you enjoy. Activities could include meeting for coffee and cake, taking a walk in a scenic location, having lunch or an evening meal together in a restaurant or cafe or inviting people round for an informal dinner party (or takeaway if the thought of playing host for dinner fills you with dread!).
Arrange a games evening Playing games can be great fun and are often so absorbing that you’ll completely forget about your to do lists and responsibilities for a while. My husband and I love Scrabble, Yahtzee, Rummikub and card games such as Gin rummy or Cribbage.
Pamper yourself Depending on your preferences, this could involve a long soak in the bath, an invigorating shower and an all over body scrub, a face mask, a foot massage, manicure or pedicure or even a much needed lie in. See it as essential me time rather than self indulgence.
Look through a photograph album My husband and I did this on our wedding anniversary last month and it brough back some really happy memories of our special day. It’s also nice to look at holiday photos through the years or albums showing your children growing up.
Do some gardening Get some fresh air whilst giving your flower beds and pots some much needed attention. Even 20 minutes can make a real difference and leave you with an outdoor space to be proud of.
Sharpen your mind with a puzzle Why not unwind with a word or number puzzle, a jigsaw or a brain teaser. I love wordsearches, Sudoku, 1000 piece jigsaw puzzles and letter arrangement games.
Spend time with a pet Playing with or observing your furry four-legged friend is great for increasing your levels of seratonin and dopamine to calm and relax you. I love having snuggles with my hamster Millie, seeing her play in her digging tower or watching her collect treats which we hide around her cage.
Make a foodie treat We often make dishes from scratch but these are generally main meals and often involve time and energy. Making something indulgent for dessert or as an afternoon snack with a cuppa is often easier and much quicker. One of my favourites is malteser tiffin and the hardest bit is leaving it in the fridge long enough to set properly!
Enjoy a meal out with your partner, friends or family Letting someone else do the cooking for a change is a great way to rest and recharge. My husband and I love going for a vegetarian banquet at our favourite Asian fusion restaurant we try to make sure we focus on the food and the company by keeping our phones off the table.
Make time for your hobbies Most of us have at least one hobby that we absolutely love but how regularly do you make time for yours? Doing something creative after a busy day is a wonderful way to unwind and leave you feeling relaxed and ready for bed.
Focus on your breathing Have a look at this simple breathing technique (you don’t need to be feeling stressed to find it beneficial). When I first starting doing focused breathing and mini meditations, I found it really difficult to switch off, but now, after regular practise, it’s so much easier so don’t give up if your mind keeps bobbing about all over!
Listen to music I love to just sit with my eyes closed and listen to my favourite classical pieces or songs. Immersing myself in the music or really tuning in to the lyrics allows my mind to switch off from everything else. The tunes don’t need to be relaxing or soothing ones – anything you enjoy will help you hold your focus.
Do a meditative activity If you find sitting still to meditate difficult, doing a repetitive activity can help you reach a meditative state. Check out this post for 8 ideas to try.
Journal your thoughts and feelings Journalling is a great way to clear your mind by putting things down on paper. You might want to write about how your day has gone, what you’re looking forward to in the future or how you feel you are progressing towards your current goals. If the thought of getting started seems a little taunting, journalling prompts are a great way to get ideas on what to write about.
Switch to audio content Instead of scrolling through content on your phone, tablet or laptop and reading or watching videos, trying listening to audio content. This could be a podcast on a topic which interests you or an audiobook which you can listen to with your eyes closed.
Do something fun which you used to enjoy as a child When I was young, phones and tablets didn’t exist and the only screen time I had each day was watching TV or playing games on our Commodore 64 (hand up if you remember this state of the art machine from the 80s!). Aside from these, we used to make our own entertainment, playing outdoor games, doing creative projects, building things out of Lego, making a den under the dining table or playing with toys such as skipping ropes, space hoppers, dolls and Transformers. Whatever you used to do as a kid, think about how adult you can do the same or similar and make some fun plans for the weekend. You might buy a stunt kite and take it to a local hill on a windy day or buy some bubble mix and have a competition to see how can make the best or biggest bubble.
Sign up for an evening class A few years ago, I did a beginners photography course at my local college (which offered a qualification to go with it) and also a couple of ceramics classes where we made and glazed various clay creations. I thoroughly enjoyed all of these and it was great to meet and get to know like-minded individuals. The ceramics beginner and intermediate sessions were incredibly relaxing and it was so exciting seeing our items when they came out of the kiln. Wherever you live, there’s likely to be a range of creative classes in your local area and if not, you could get together with friends to try something new.
Join a choir Group singing is a wonderful way to de-stress and feel part of the community. There will probably be a range of choirs and musical societies available to join depending on the type of music and songs you prefer. A small cost may be incurred but I know from my own experience it’s a small price to pay for something which is very therapeutic and creates a real high.
Do something arty When we were young kids, most of us enjoyed art activities such as painting, drawing, making collages and constructing from junk materials. That’s because it was mainly about enjoying the creative process and experimenting with different techniques. As we get older, we tend to focus on the finished result and being happy with what we’ve made, rather than having fun as part of the process. So, get out your paints, markers, crayons, pencils and pens and simply explore and experiment.
Be a tourist in your home town or city (or one nearby) You’ve probably already visited a few places and buildings in your local area but do you know their and how your town or city has developed over time? A quick check on Tripadvisor and I’ve discovered a number of ideas for places to go, activities to try and history to read up on where I live in Sunderland.

I hope you’ve found today’s blog post useful and it’s given you plenty of ideas for relaxing activities which offer much needed screen free time. I would love to know which one is your favourite and why. And if you don’t feel like you have a space in your day to fit in any of the above, is it because your diary is genuinely completely full or is it because mindlessly scrolling is taking over your life right now?