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Monday Matters: 4 Ways to Destress after a Busy Day

Posted on by Laura
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Most of us lead very busy lives and it can be incredibly difficult to switch off and relax in the evening in preparation for a good night’s sleep. Today, I’m sharing four excellent ways to wind down after a stressful or busy day. The following activities are great for your mental health and wellbeing and I’m going to be offering lots of different options to choose from depending on your preferences.

Do a journalling activity

After a busy or particularly stressful day, it can often be super difficult to calm our mind. Your head can be full of all kinds of clutter in the form of thoughts (both positive and negative), ideas or feelings. Maybe you’re busy analysing or deconstructing everything that has happened and going through things that were said. Perhaps you’re worrying about your mounting to do list and what didn’t get crossed off today because of x,y and z which took priority. Or, you might be looking towards tomorrow, thinking about the events in your diary or how you can be super productive and get more done whilst making it a calmer, less stress inducing day. If any of the above apply, you might be wondering if you will ever be able to switch off and sleep tonight. This is where getting your thoughts and feelings out of your head and onto paper can be super helpful. Just ten minutes of free flow or structured journal writing can make all the difference.

I learnt the following method for putting the day to rest when I was teaching, when every day was a busy day and I was really struggling to relax and sleep.

Putting the day to rest activity

  • Set aside 20 minutes in the early evening (I used to do this at 7.30pm)
  • Sit down somewhere quiet
  • Think about your day today and how it has gone, what you did and how you feel about it
  • Write it down in bullet points or free writing if you prefer
  • Write down anything you didn’t get done off your to-do list
  • Think about tomorrow – do you have any particular events coming up? what are looking forward to? are there any worries you have about what’s happening?
  • Write down a loose or structured plan for your day depending on your own needs (you can always modify this as you learn what works best for you.
  • When it comes to later evening and bedtime, if thoughts about today or tomorrow pop into your head, remind yourself that you’ve already evaluated your day and planned for tomorrow, so you don’t need to think about it any more.
  • If new thoughts come into your head at bedtime, jot them down on a piece of paper or on a notepad.

Other types of prompt based journalling might also work for you and there are some lovely ones on the market which can be used before bed. I’m a big fan of The Five Minute Journal but there are plenty of much cheaper options if this doesn’t fit with your budget. How much you want to write is up to you but it’s good to develop a consistent practice which becomes a positive habit to end your work time or day with.

Try a Mindful or Meditative Practice

Any type of activity that requires a high level of concentration and uses different senses is great for helping you to forget about the busyness of your day. Here’s some ideas for mindful and meditative activities which you might like to try:

  • Meditation – this can simply be sitting quietly and focusing on your breathing or using a guided practice. I recently found this account on YouTube that has some lovely ones with different foci that you mind find helpful. When choosing a guided session, it’s important to find someone who’s voice you find soothing and relaxing so you might like to try out a few to establish your preferences.
  • Crafting – there are so many different crafting options such as papercrafting, watercolour painting, knitting, sewing, crochet, model making and so on – why not give a few beginner projects a go to see which you prefer.
  • Some kind of puzzle e.g. a jigsaw, wordsearch, crossword etc. – great for keeping your mind active
  • Games – this could be something on your computer that you play by yourself such as Angry Birds, Candy Crush, Word Cookies or Patience, or one you play with others such as Boggle, Yahtzee, Gin Rummy, Scrabble or Jenga.
  • Enjoy a scented bubble bath and use your senses to fully appreciate the experience.
  • Cook a meal from scratch – measure out your ingredients with care, fully engaged with chopping / dicing / peeling etc, smell the different flavours as the dish cooks, taste the mixture to check the seasoning and so on. Mindfully enjoy the results at your dining table. Share your experience with others.
  • Watch something engaging on TV – comedy, drama, nature, historical interest or reality. Whatever you enjoy, give it your full attention and leave your phone or tablet in another room so you don’t get distracted. If you’re anything like me at this time of year, you’ll want to get your PJs on and snuggle under a warm blanket with your feet up for this one!

Read a book or magazine

Spending time reading a novel, information book, or favourite magazine is a great way to unwind and get yourself all relaxed and ready for bed. I love Psychologies magazine, as it’s full of positive ideas, and I can learn new ways of managing mental health and wellbeing at the same time.

Some people argue that you shouldn’t read in bed, but I find reading a few chapters of my Kindle novel (or for about 30 minutes) helps me to drift off really quickly. Try reading just before bed and reading in bed to see which works best for you.

Spend quality time with a loved one

Arranging an after work activity to do with a co-worker, friend, family member or partner can also help us destress. This could involve going out for an after-work drink, doing an evening class, watching a film at the cinema, seeing a comedy show or visiting a new or favourite restaurant. Alternatively, you might plan something fun to do together at home such as making popcorn to eat whilst watching a film, playing a board game or learning something new such as massage or reflexology.

Spending time with a pet is also great way to destress and calm the mind. This could include something you know they enjoy such as throwing a ball for your dog to catch at your local park (depending on the time of year), stroking your cat as they sit curled up on your knee, or watching your hamster as they zip around the house in their exercise ball.

Final words…

So there you have it, four ways to take yourself out of work/busy mode and into a relaxed state for the evening. I hope today’s post has given you food for thought and you’ll try one or two of the activities listed to see how they help. If you have any other preferences for your wind down routine, let me know in the comments.

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Monday Matters: Ten ways to get yourself ready for the winter season

Posted on by Laura
Photo credit: Alex Padurariu for Unsplash

According to some reading I did online, the date that winter starts depends on whether you are referring to the astronomical or meteorological winter. The astronomical calendar identifies the season in the UK as beginning on Friday 22nd December in 2023, but personally, I follow the meteorological definition which cites winter as beginning on the 1st December each year. Whichever date marks the beginning of winter for you, I think we can all agree that wintery weather is coming as fast as Christmas is creeping up on us. Whether you dread the icy cold temperatures, or look forward to cosying up in front of the fire in a thick jumper and chunky socks, I think today is the perfect time to talk about getting ourselves ready for the chilly season before it hits. Here’s my top 10 ways to get winter ready.

Check over your winter wear

Get out your super thick winter coat, your hats, scarves and gloves and check them over to see what condition they’re in. Do any of them need replacing? Are there perfectly serviceable items from last year that you didn’t wear which might need donating to charity or given to a friend who will show them more love? Are they washed (or spot cleaned if necessary) and ready to wear?

My husband and I have a small woven basket next to the front door to store our favourite accessories in so we can grab them and go without having to go upstairs to retrieve them before heading out. Other items are kept in drawers and our wardrobes tucked away until needed.

Think layers

As well as outer wear, what you put on underneath is super important too. For winter walks, I recommend searching out some base layers from an outdoors shop. Thermal vests are also a good option to keep you toasty. Longer socks (thermal or wool ones) can keep your feet and legs warm, whilst fleece lined items can be worn under your coat. Layered clothing is always the best idea for winter outings as you can always strip some of them off if you get too hot. There’s nothing worse than going out and feeling really cold, and then struggling to get yourself warm again when you return home.

Evaluate your footwear

Another key part of your winter wear, which I feel needs its own section, is your footwear. For indoors, I recommend cosy slippers with a good sole (IMO not those big, squishy, novelty ones where you’re in danger of falling down the stairs / slipping on the floor when you move around) or socks with gripper treads AKA non-slip soles. For outside, a decent pair of wellingtons is good for light, short walks in snowy conditions or torrential rain (not very comfy on long or difficult walks IMO), walking shoes and boots with good grip / extra traction for extensive walking in all kinds of weather, or, more dressy boots for days and nights out where you don’t plan on walking too far or the weather isn’t too bad (I still like mine to have some sort of grip on the soles). Personally, all of the above, apart from slippers are essentials for me, but it does, of course, depend on the types of weather you get in your location and what you intend to be doing in the winter months.

Make plans for warming meals

On super chilly days, I always crave warming meals such as soup, stew and wholesome pies plus hot favourites such as vegetable lasagne, butternut squash risotto and cauliflower cheese. Before the temperatures really drop, I like to spend time doing some meal planning in my bullet journal. This includes picking out some new recipes to try (both online and in recipe books and magazines, and also listing pantry essentials such as lentils, wholewheat pasta, canned soups, porridge oats, cocoa, plain flour etc. and seasonal fruit and vegetables (such as cranberries, pomegranates, satsumas, sweet potatoes, kale, broccoli and winter squash, which are really handy to reference when we create our weekly shopping lists.

In January, my husband and I take part in Veganuary, where you go vegan for the month (and potentially beyond) and, although it’s easier to find plant based options in the supermarkets these days, we still like to do some extra meal planning and search for some appropriate or adaptable recipes. There are loads of options on the Veganuary website but quite a few of the choices are spicy and I’m not good with this kind of food.

Choose some seasonal scents for your home

There are so many gorgeous scents to choose from this winter and you can also mix and match between a range of different fragranced items including candles, room sprays, pot pourri, reed diffusers and wax melts. Popular seasonal scents include cinnamon, pine, cedarwood, eucalyptus, juniper berries, sweet orange, clove and vanilla. I like to choose vegan options made of soy wax rather than those of animal origin and M&S have a great selection which smell wonderful. I also like purchasing from local small businesses on Etsy.

Protect and nourish your skin

There are two main things that dry your skin out in the winter time, one is the central heating and the other is the harsh weather. The central heating reduces the humidity in the air and affects how much moisture is present for the skin to absorb. Also, weather such as rain, wind and icy conditions zaps moisture from exposed areas of skin like your face, neck and hands, causing redness, dryness and other types of irritation.

At this time of year it helps to choose a richer moisturiser for face, hands and body. You should also try to make sure you apply it straight after washing or bathing. I also like to apply a thick layer of emollient cream to my hands and feet and then wear cotton gloves or socks overnight to really give the moisturiser time to be absorbed fully. Other ingredients which are super effective include shea butter, cocoa butter, rosehip oil and jojoba oil.

Using a humidifier in the home can also add moisture back into the air so it isn’t so dry. And don’t forget to hydrate from the inside too with plenty of fluids throughout the way.

Top up your Vitamin D

During the winter, natural light is in shorter supply and The Sun isn’t so strong. Also many of us spend more time indoors during the colder months. This can cause deficiencies in vitamin D which is important for healthy bones, a strong immune system, calcium absorption, brain health and our happiness levels. To ensure you’re getting enough of this important vitamin, you will need to make changes to your diet. This can involve making sure you eat foods which are rich in Vitamin D such as fish, seafood, eggs and fortified items such as cereal, plant based milks, some types of bread and even fruit juices. If you’re after a plant-based food, mushrooms are the best source. It’s also recommended that you take a daily multivitamin or vitamin powder (which you add water to). If you’re concerned you may have a vitamin deficiency, always consult your doctor or other medical professional for advice.

Equip your car

My husband and I were talking the other day about how much we hate driving in the dark. Unfortunately this, and misty or frozen windscreens are unavoidable at this time of year. Although it’s extremely difficult to avoid driving in the darkness, you can prepare for winter driving in other ways. Creating a kit which includes items such as de-icer, a scraper, small shovel, microfibre cloth, pocket torch and windscreen snow cover will be super useful for different kinds of weather. I also recommend having a warm, fleecy blanket and thick waterproof coat in the boot of your car, just in case.

The AA website has lots of extra winter advice which I’ve found really useful, so have a read through all of the information on this page to get yourself really clued up.

Be ready for potential power cuts

We’re all super reliant on technology these days but what’s the first thing you would need if your electricity went off due to a power cut? Candles (the unscented kind this time) and battery operated lights including a torch and maybe some of those little push on, push off LED lights. Again, creating a kit for use during an unplanned loss of power can be a great way to prepare. Your emergency kit might include wax candles (plus something to light them with) and/or battery operated varieties, LED push on lights, a small night light (for bedroom, landing or in the bathroom), a battery operated or wind up torch, spare batteries for the torch and any other battery operated items in your kit, a supply of bottled water, ready to eat food and the phone number of the Electricity Distribution Network Operator (DNO) – in the UK, this is the easy to remember 105 number but it’s best to have it written down in case you forget. You might also want to have things to keep you warm too such as a hot water bottle, handwarmers, a sleeping bag and a supply of blankets.

The Met Office website has additional information that you might find useful. Just remember to take the time to read it before you actually need it! If you’re not in the UK, I’m sure there will be similar information for your locality online.

Create a winter bucket list

This September, I created an autumn bucket list. I made a two page spread in my bullet journal with items from the list and pictures to go with them. I then ticked off when I had achieved something. I also made an Autumn TN insert in which I’ve created pages with photographs, journalling, autumnal patterns, ephemera, and other decorative elements to show how I’ve achieved things from the list. I’ve enjoyed all of the above so much that I decided to repeat the process for the winter season. I’m really looking forward to getting started. Obviously, this is not a winter essential, but it’s great if you enjoy getting creative or you want to plan some new and different experiences for yourself and your family. I added stickers to mine made with my Cricut Joy.

Photo credit: Laura Jones, Keeping It Creative

Final words…

Whilst researching bits and pieces for today’s blog post, I also came across lots of useful information for older people on Age UK. There’s so much advice to read that I thought I’d just share the link for interested readers. One of the most important tips is to make sure you or your older relatives get yearly jabs such as the flu vaccine. Contrary to popular belief, the jab does not give the person flu, but has the potential to cause mild cold symptoms afterwards so maybe some basic over the counter cold medication could be purchased in preparation.

I hope you’ve found today’s blog post beneficial and it has given you some ideas on getting yourself and your home ready for winter. I look forward to hearing from you in the comments about whether or not you’re looking forward to the season and what your favourite things are about wintertime.

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Monday Matters: 9 signs you’re approaching burnout (and how to avoid it)

Posted on by Laura

When I was teaching, I would regularly feel completely wiped out physically and mentally, and, for the first days of any holiday, whether it was half term, Easter, Christmas or the summer break, I would end up either ill or sleeping most of the time as my body and my mind couldn’t take any more.

The other week, I was listening to a group of pharmacy students at the University as they discussed their workloads and lifestyle choices because of how much they had to do. It reminded me of that feeling of never having enough time and the pressure and stress that came with it. So, today, I thought I’d talk about the signs which suggest you may be heading towards burnout (or are already there), and, perhaps more importantly, what you can do about it before you reach that stage.

What is burnout?

Burnout can be defined as a state of physical, mental and emotional exhaustion which can result from long-term or repeated bouts of stress. This could include, but is not limited to, working in a stressful or high pressured job, doing an intense amount of studying (e.g. for a degree course or post graduate qualification, or having a particularly demanding life circumstance such as being a single parent, caring for a loved one (such as a young person with special needs or an aging relative), having financial difficulties or worries related to job security, being involved in a house move, divorce or separation or trying to juggle too many responsibilities at once.

What are the main signs of burnout?

The signs of burnout differ depending on the individual but common signs to look out for include:

  • fatigue – constantly feeling tired, drained or exhausted
  • sleep issues e.g. insomnia, panicked night time waking, regularly getting less than 6 hours a night etc
  • frequent feelings of cynicism, anger, irritability and a pessimistic life outlook in general
  • poor immunity – resulting in regularly feeling under the weather or having frequent coughs, colds, sore throats etc
  • gastro-intestinal issues such as IBS, stomach upsets, sickness and diarrhea or unexplained abdominal pains
  • recurring headaches
  • poor concentration levels which may result in reduced efficacy or success at work, making careless mistakes, being easily distracted, struggling to maintain attention, trouble thinking clearly or making decisions, forgetfulness and poor working memory.
  • depressed mood which may cause tearfulness, sadness, feelings of emptiness, loss of interest or pleasure in things you once enjoyed, feeling worthless, suicidal ideation, a sense of isolation and inability to relate to others
  • feelings of anxiety such as restlessness, agitation, irritability, having a sense of dread or fearing the worst

How can I prevent burnout?

Educate yourself Learn about your current stresses and your coping strategies using ‘the stress bucket model’ that I discovered on Mental Health UK. You can download your own to fill in here. Make a list of helpful activities (known as taps in the example) and plan to do some of them each day to help you destress and unwind.

Prioritise self care You might not be able to remove the sources of stress you are dealing with right now, but you can make sure that self care becomes a non-negotiable part of each day. Try writing two lists – everyday (basic) self care that keeps you functioning each day e.g. keeping yourself hydrated, eating regular and nutritious meals, getting some exercise and taking regular work breaks, and ‘me time’ self care activities you find calming or relaxing e.g. having a walk in nature, quiet reading, taking a bubble bath, having some time away from your phone and social media, listening to music with your eyes closed, doing a mini meditation etc.

Learn to say no If you feel like you’re taking on too much to cope with, could it be that you are agreeing to requests or feeling obligated to doing things that are further adding to your stress? Although easier said than done, learning to say no can really help you to prioritise what matters to you or what you consider is absolutely essential for your health and wellbeing.

Accept that perfection is unachievable Perfectionism and the impossibly high standards that go with this trait can become overwhelming and will almost certainly lead to burnout. To manage this, take time to think about your current situation realistically and try to think positively about how well you are doing under the circumstances. Mantras such as ‘I can only do my best’, ‘done is better than perfect’, ‘nobody is perfect’ and ‘I don’t have to do things perfectly’ can help if said regularly.

Show some self-compassion If a friend was having to juggle all the commitments and responsibilities you’re currently facing, what would you say to make them feel better? A helpful exercise I learned in one my compassion group sessions is to write a letter offering sympathy, advice and support and post it to yourself or read it regularly. It might feel a little strange writing at first but it can really help.

Take a break from your devices After a particular busy or stressful day, you might be inclined to sit (or lie) on the sofa and mindlessly scroll through your phone or tablet. This might seem like a good way to relax at the time, but studies show that being addicted to our digital devices has a seriously negative impact on our mental and physical health, not to mention our productivity levels. Rather than constantly reaching for your phone, why not try a screen free hobby, for example, doing a mindful craft such as painting, drawing, sewing or knitting, doing puzzles such as jigsaws, crosswords, wordsearches or Sudoku which stretch your brain and help you relax at the same time or losing yourself in a good book or your favourite magazine.

Get organised Use your planner or calendar to map out your day and manage your schedule. Being organised can help you feel more in control and can also be a useful tool for identifying and planning for your priorities.

Practise mindfulness and meditation Mindfulness is a technique that involves paying attention to the current moment with non-judgmental awareness of our thoughts and feelings. Click here to read about five simple ways of incorporating mindfulness into you daily routine. Meditation, which is a key aspect of mindfulness practice, has been shown to combat potential burnout by lowering stress and anxiety levels, helping us to build resilience and coping skills, improving self- awareness and self-esteem, cultivating positive thoughts and emotions and boosting our ability to focus and concentrate on tasks. For ideas on how to get started, you might like to read this blog post which has beginner friendly suggestions and tips.

Reach out to others Sometimes, when struggling to cope with everything life is throwing at us, we start to believe we’re the only one who’s finding things difficult. Our thoughts and feelings can then lead us to withdraw from loved ones or isolate ourselves from others. However, this is the time when seeking out your support network can be most useful. Positive social interaction such as meeting a friend for coffee, taking a full lunch break with work colleagues or fellow students, or doing something fun with family members can help in a range of different ways such as providing a listening ear, support, sympathy and useful advice, taking your mind off your sources of stress or giving you the chance to do something enjoyable or relaxing.

Take steps to manage your sleep routine High stress levels can have a profoundly negative effect on your sleep. It’s really important to take steps to develop a relaxing evening routine which sets you up for a good night’s sleep. This wonderful article discusses the relationship between sleep and burnout and includes lots of useful tips for your day, evening and bedtime routine.

Final words…

For many of us, avoiding burnout isn’t easy and there are commitments in our busy lives which we can’t avoid or say no to. However, actively taking steps to combat the daily stresses in our lives by using some or all of the coping strategies above can really help. I think filling in the stress bucket would be a good first step in boosting self- awareness prior to making small lifestyle changes with a view to preventing burnout and generally improving health and wellbeing in the future. Let me know in the comments if you try out some of the ideas above and you find them beneficial.

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Monday Matters: The Hidden Costs of Staying Informed: How the News Negatively Impacts Your Stress and Anxiety levels plus other aspects of your Mental and Physical Health

Posted on by Laura

Last month, I met up with a few of my close friends for lunch and a good catch up. We had a lovely afternoon and there was so much to talk about. We reminisced about old times when we all worked together, talked about our recent holidays and plans for future breaks, shared what we’d been up to over the summer (and how fast the months were flying by) and commented on how children are so different from when we were young. As is often the case when the conversation is flowing, we spent some time chatting about current affairs local and national news. Sitting there listening and very occasionally contributing to the discussion, I realised that I knew much less about most of the topics than anyone else in our group. They seemed to know every detail about a particularly harrowing subject and had formed lots of opinions about all that they had read and heard. When I returned home, I mentioned this to my husband and considered why I was much less informed. I came to the conclusion that the main reason is that I firmly believe that over-consumption of news, particularly of the negative kind, seriously impacts my mental health and so I tend to avoid watching and reading too much. Today, I’d like to share what I have learnt from my online reading on this interesting and thought-provoking topic and present some strategies for avoiding ‘doomscrolling’ and managing your news consumption in general.

The concept of ‘doomscrolling’ and issues with easy access to news media

The term ‘doomscrolling’ came into regular use during the Coronavirus pandemic and is the act of spending an excessive amount of time reading and consuming large quantities of negative news online. This, coupled with 24 hour news channels on the TV, sensationalist headlines being so easily accessible and the negativity bias of media outlets can mean that the news is seriously harming your health and wellbeing. Some of the detrimental effects include:

  • increased anxiety levels
  • difficulty concentrating, completing tasks or relaxing
  • worsening symptoms of depression
  • elevated stress levels and trouble sleeping
  • obsessive worry and fear
  • gut and stomach problems
  • muscle tension and pain
  • poor productivity levels
  • feelings of helplessness or paranoia

So, why do people involve themselves in ‘doomscrolling’ and excessive negative news consumption?

According to my research there are several main reasons why people engage in this kind of behaviour:

  • having a natural negativity bias that makes them pay more attention to bad news than good news
  • wanting to feel in control and prepared for potential threats in a world that seems chaotic and uncertain
  • being addicted to the dopamine rush that comes from getting new information, even if it is negative
  • because they wrongly believe that they are keeping themselves safe by doing so

What strategies can I try to prevent ‘doomscrolling’ and over consumption of negative news media?

  • Limit your time Set a time limit for your news consumption and stick to it
  • Make use of mobile apps and your phone settings Use apps or tools that block or limit your access to social media or news sites
  • Look for the good news Seek out positive or uplifting stories that balance out the negative ones
  • Consider better alternatives Choose to engage in activities that make you happy, such as hobbies, exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones
  • Seek help or support Talk to a therapist or a trusted friend if you feel overwhelmed by the news or your emotions

Final words…

I hope you’ve found today’s post thought provoking and useful. Remember, staying informed is important in terms of feeling involved, knowledgeable and connected to others and is a valuable way to learn and grow. However, taking care of yourself is of equal importance so make sure you control your news consumption rather than letting it control you!

Wishing you good health and wellness,

Posted in mental health, Mindfulness, Planning and journaling, wellness

Monday Matters: Practical ways to build resilience for better mental health

Posted on by Laura

This blog post first appeared here in March 2019 when my chosen word of the year was resilience and I was spending a good deal of time reading articles and books to help me improve mine. I hope my updated post proves useful to anyone looking for a few ideas on the topic to support their good mental health.

What do we mean by the term ‘resilience’?

Resilience can be defined as the ability to cope with and rise from all of the challenges, problems and set-backs that life throws at us and come back stronger. When we develop our skills and personal strength in this area, we are able to handle our difficulties more easily and this can improve our overall mental health.

The following ideas were collected at a time when I was in a good place and have helped me during periods of depression and low mood. I hope you find them useful too. Even if you are in a period of good mental health right now, it can be useful to learn ways to develop your resilience for times in the future when you may need a boost.

Try to remain optimistic

It can be difficult to remain optimistic when faced with challenges in life but maintaining a hopeful outlook is an important part of resilience. Try to have a positive mindset and encourage thinking such as ‘it’s not the end of the world’ and ‘things will get better’. Remember that set backs are temporary and remind yourself that you are strong and that you have the skills and abilities to face your difficulties.

When negative thoughts pop into your head, try to replace them with something more positive such as ‘I have lots of friends who will support me through this’, ‘I am good at solving problems’, ‘I never give up’, ‘I am good at my job’ etc. Also, choose to see challenges and bad experiences as an opportunity to learn. Ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this situation?’, ‘What is this trying to teach me?’ ‘What positives can I take from my experience?’.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about awareness in the present moment – our thoughts and feelings and the world around us. It involves the use of techniques such as meditation, breathing and stretching exercises and can help you to stay calm and in control of your emotions.

When practising mindfulness you begin to notice how thoughts come and go in your mind. You learn to accept these thoughts without judgement and develop your ability to let them go. In addition, you are able to tune in to what your body is telling you and notice signs of stress and anxiety so that you can release tension as you meditate.

Support Network

It’s really important to have people who you can turn to at times of need. Building and nurturing constructive relationships with positive and supportive friends, family and colleagues is an essential part of wellbeing and staying resilient. They can provide a listening ear, positive encouragement, advice or help you celebrate your achievements. Having a good support system in place has also been shown to boost self esteem, confidence and better self image.

If you feel you need to widen your support network, there are many opportunities to do so either in your local community or through online groups. Try your local library, community centre or college for clubs and classes or try to find out about volunteering opportunities in your fields of interest.

A resilient body

We’ve all heard the expression ‘healthy body, heathy mind’ and keeping yourself well is another key part of resilience. Try to eat regularly and make sure you get plenty of good for you fruit and veggies in your diet. Find a type of exercise that you enjoy (personally, I love countryside walks and dancing), and schedule in a time for this each day. Also, remember to take time out to relax and recharge. It’s not self indulgent to schedule in some me time each day, it’s a key part of coping with our busy and stressful lives.

Good sleep is also vital for a healthy lifestyle and better mental health. Try to develop a good relaxation routine each evening – listen to some calming music, dim the lights, meditate or have a warm bath. Many people recommend writing in a journal as a way of putting the day to rest so that you don’t have lot of thoughts buzzing around in your head when you climb into bed. If you want to learn more about this technique click here.

Ideas to try in your bullet journal

  • Create a positive affirmations page and read them every morning. Examples of affirmations include ‘I am strong’, ‘I see the bright side in all situations’, ‘I radiate positive energy’.
  • Add some of your favourite positive quotes to your weekly plan.
  • Write a list of ways to reward yourself for your achievements such as ‘have a relaxing bubble bath’, ‘paint your nails’, ‘buy yourself some planner stickers’, ‘treat yourself to your favourite bar of chocolate’ etc.
  • Practise gratitude by keeping a ‘one line a day’ log where you write in something you are grateful for on that day. You can include anything you want such as ‘the helpful magazine article I read yesterday’, ‘a kind text from my friend’, ‘3 new shop orders today’, ‘the lovely feedback I received’ etc
  • Make a ‘Things That Make Me Happy’ page and use it to remind you of all the good things in your life.
  • Produce a list of creative activities that you enjoy and find the time to schedule at least one of them into your busy week. Getting involved in art and creative tasks has been proven to reduce stress and it’s another mindful activity which can provide a welcome distraction from negative thoughts or anxieties.
  • Keep a daily journal in which you evaluate your day. It will help you to focus on the positives and any challenges that you met. You can also use your journaling as a space to assess your issues and any ideas you may have for solving them.

Final words…

I hope you have found these tips useful and will try out some of the ideas in your notebook or bullet journal. Of course sometimes, during periods of depression, it is really difficult to see a way forward back to better mental health and it may be that if you’re really struggling, the help of a trained therapist might be the best form of help. I have found CBT style therapy particularly useful in the past and still apply what I’ve been taught over the years. Skills associated with resilience take time to develop but I believe that everyone has the capacity to learn.