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Monday Matters: 5 ways to get yourself ready for Autumn 2023

Posted on by Laura
Photo credit: Johannes Plenio for Unsplash

Some of us look forward to Autumn and the prospect of wearing warm clothes, spending cosy evenings in watching great TV and snuggling up with a hot drink and a good book. For others, it is less appealing, signifying fewer daylight hours and colder temperatures. However you feel about the coming months, here are five ways to get yourself ready for the season and plan some enjoyable and mood boosting activities.

Do some seasonal meal planning

In the Summer time, we tend to opt for lighter meals such as salads and juicy, fresh fruits such as watermelon, strawberries, mango, peaches, nectarines and raspberries. However, as we head into Autumn we start to crave heartier meals and warming foods such as soups, stews, pies, risottos, curries, root veggies (e.g. sweet potato, onion, turnip, leek, swede, parsnip, carrot and celeriac) plus other wholesome favourites (e.g. squashes, cauliflower, broccoli, kale, cabbage and chard), seasonal fruits (e.g. apples, pears, cranberries, elderberries, damsons and plums) wholegrains (e.g. wholemeal pasta, brown rice, quinoa, oats, bulgur wheat and wholemeal breads) and legumes (e.g. beans, chickpeas, lentils and soybeans).

As we head towards the new season, I like to use a page in my bullet journal to make a list of warming dishes that we already enjoy and will want to make again this year. I’ll also spend some time searching recipes books and online resources such BBC Good Food, Olive Magazine, National Trust, Sainsburys Magazine and Tesco Real Food for some new ideas to try, marking pages with Post-it index tabs and sharing webpages to Notion to place in my recipes section.

Prepare your home

This year I’ve treated myself to a beautiful Autumn wreath for our front door and added to my little collection of decorative pumpkins with some small plush ones I found in Hobbycraft. I’m really looking forward to putting them on display.

As well as changing up your decor, here’s some other ways to get your home ready for the autumn season:

  • sort out your wardrobe and drawers -remove vest tops, shorts, cropped trousers, summer skirts and dresses, thin jackets, caps, sunhats and summer swimwear and put them into storage to make room for thicker coats, jumpers, cardigans, tights, thicker trousers, jeans, hats, scarfs and gloves. Consider donating anything which hasn’t been worn in a while.
  • deep clean your home – we often associate spring with the time to clean but the autumn season is ideal too. Search ‘fall deep cleaning checklist’ on Pinterest for comprehensive lists of what to tackle.
  • swap your thin summer duvet for a slightly thicker one and layer with a blanket at the bottom of the bed or place on a chair for chillier nights.
  • add layers of soft furnishings such as throws and blankets to your sofa and chairs. You might also like to transform your space with new cushion covers in autumnal colours such as deep oranges, rich reds, golden browns, plum tones, muddy greens and mustard yellow.
  • treat yourself to a new home fragrance such as a candle, reed diffuser, pot pourri or air freshener. Popular scents for autumn include cinnamon, apple, amber, pine, cedarwood and spiced pumpkin.

Go outside

As temperatures start to drop and it gets a bit wet out there, it can be tempting to stay indoors, but Autumn is a beautiful time of year and, as long as you dress appropriately for the weather ( e.g. layers, waterproof coat, wellies, comfortable shoes or boots etc.) nothing beats a wonderful, mindful walk, appreciating all that nature has to offer.

My husband and I try to plan to go somewhere different each weekend, choosing a scenic location such as a forest, park, garden or woodland where we can completely immerse ourselves in the atmosphere. Here’s a few suggestions for making the most of your time outdoors:

  • use all of your senses to really appreciate the environment you’re in, pause regularly to notice the sights, sounds, smells, textures and maybe even tastes if you take a warm drink or a snack with you!
  • take your camera along to record some of your nature spots such as trees changing colour, different types of fungi, squirrels collecting nuts, the sun peeping through the branches of a tree, moss and lichen, fallen leaves on the ground, flowing water, nuts and berries, different views etc
  • collect autumn things such as acorns, conkers, different shapes, sizes and colours of leaves, pine cones, sycamore seeds, feathers etc
  • find a place to rest (preferably somewhere quiet and peaceful to sit or stand depending on the weather), take a few deeper, calming breathes before closing your eyes to. Take time to really appreciate the various sounds of nature, bodily sensations such as the sun, wind or rain on your face or the feel of your clothes against you skin and how you are feeling right now
  • when you get home, try doing some reflective journalling about today’s walk and how you feel about the Autumn season – the things you love and the things you don’t

Make the most of the light

As well as scheduling in time for walks in nature, try to find other ways of soaking up as much of the autumn light as you can. This might mean slightly changing your routine and going to bed a little earlier so you can enjoy the morning sunshine, taking your lunch outside or going for a short mid-day walk, moving your chair or workspace to a sunny spot in your home or using mirrors to reflect sunlight from your windows.

Autumn is also the best season to watch beautiful sunrises and see spectacular and vivid sunsets. Plus, there are many physical and mental health benefits including better sleep, improved immune system, stress reduction, boosted mood, appetite regulation, feelings of gratitude and the chance to slow down and focus on the here and now.

Make an Autumn bucket list

This is something I did in my bullet journal a good few years ago now and it’s something I’m going to create again this year to make sure I get the most out of the season. Some ideas to add off the top of my head include:

  • photograph signs of autumn e.g. changing leaves, squirrels storing nuts for the winter, fungi in the woods, crunchy fallen leaves, squashes appearing in the supermarket
  • go on a woodland walk
  • buy or make a piece of Autumn décor for your home
  • visit a pumpkin patch (book early as it’s a popular activity)
  • learn more about the science of leaves changing colour
  • do an Autumn craft – I plan to make an Autumn leaf garland using cardstock and my Cricut Joy and hope to create some Autumn ephemera for my TN journal too
  • develop a collection of squash recipes and try out at least two of them

Final words…

I hope you’ve found today’s post useful and it has given you some ideas on how to prepare for the changing season. If you have a tendency to feel anxious or down about the advent of autumn, maybe it’s time to work on reframing your outlook and start thinking about all the things there are to look forward to like beautiful walks in nature, wonderful wildlife to spot such as squirrels collecting nuts, noisy, honking geese in a large v in the sky heading south, new arrivals to the UK including fieldfares, redwings and waxwings, plus waterbirds like barnacle geese, water pipits, pochards and pintails, starling murmurations and rutting deer, wearing warm clothes and snuggling up under blankets, creating a cosy atmosphere in your home, eating comfort foods like soups, stews, crumbles and pies, plus lots of gripping TV dramas to binge watch.

Wishing you all a fantastic and fun-filled Autumn season,

Posted in lifestyle, Mindfulness, self care, wellbeing

Monday Matters: 15 Relaxing things to do this Summer

Posted on by Laura

The summer is finally here bringing with it longer and warmer days, sunshine and gentle breezes. Today, I’m sharing fifteen relaxing activities for you to try over the next few months. Why not create a bucket list (maybe with little doodles for each item) in your notebook or planner as a visual reminder?

Enjoy a picnic in your local park

One of my favourite things to do in the summer is to fill our cool bag with lots of tasty lunch items to enjoy al fresco in a park or at a local picnic spot. Must haves for me are juicy strawberries and a nice cold bottle of fresh orange but you can tailor make a menu of your favourite cold foods.

Take a hike

There are so many different options for a long summer walk – ambling through shady woodland, following a riverside path, taking a coastal route, heading for the hills or following a trail at a nature reserve are just some ideas that come to mind. If it’s a hot one, pace yourself and take plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated. After I got bitten repeatedly whilst on holiday in Norfolk, I would also recommend a good application of insect repellant too! Often, there’s little or no phone signal out there so you get a tech break too.

Make lemonade

Nothing beats a refreshing lemonade on a hot summer’s day and it’s even better if it’s homemade. Check out this easy recipe to make your own from scratch and then enjoy as part of a picnic or in your back garden.

Watch the sunset

I’ve seen and photographed some spectacular sunsets over the years and each time it’s an amazingly calming and restful way to end my day either alone or with someone special. All you need is a view to the west, a good spot to sit or stand such as a park, a hill or somewhere else high up such as a rooftop bar, the beach or even a window in your house, and maybe a blanket if it’s become a little chilly outside.

Sit outside after dark and stargaze

This one takes a bit of planning as you need to choose a clear night but free apps like Nightshift tell you what the forecast is like and StarTracker or similar identifies the constellations you can see if you point your phone up to the night sky. It also helps if you choose a location which is high up or somewhere that gives you a wide view of the sky with limited light pollution. Hills and beaches are particularly suitable.

Go somewhere quiet and read a summer themed novel

Nothing beats sitting in the sunshine or under the shade of a tree in a quiet spot to read a lighthearted summer novel. Popular authors who have written some great seasonal fiction include Phillipa Ashley, Sue Morecroft, Veronica Henry, Emily Henry, Katie Fforde and Jo Thomas.

Enjoy an iced coffee (or other iced drink if you prefer)

There are so many summer drinks options available in our local cafes at the moment – frappuccinos, refreshers, iced teas and coffees and new bubble teas. My favourite is a Starbucks Iced Brown Sugar which is made with oat milk, espresso and brown sugar syrup. And it’s less calorific than the hot caramel macchiato I choose during the colder months. Whichever drink you go for, make sure you consume it mindfully and savour every sip.

Treat yourself to a delicious ice cream

There’s nothing better than ice cream on a hot summer’s day and nowadays there’s so many flavours and styles to choose from. And if you’re dairy free or vegan, there’s often plant based options including the new vegan raspberry swirl Magnum or a nice, refreshing and tangy sorbet. We like to take our foldable chairs in the boot of our car when we go out in the summer time so we can sit and enjoy our tasty treat in comfort and relax for a while in the sunshine afterwards..

Immerse yourself in nature

Spending time outdoors in nature can improve both your physical and mental health. Some of my favourite relaxing summer activities include visiting a botanical garden, wandering through a meadow spotting bees and butterflies, visiting wetland habitats with my binoculars to observe water birds and taking my DSLR camera to photograph flora and fauna.

Make fruit salad

A cocktail of fresh fruits is a great summer dessert and is super healthy too. Seasonal choices which work well include strawberries, mango, watermelon, raspberries, papaya, pineapple, melon, blueberries and cherries (don’t forget to remove the stones). Preparing the fruit salad yourself is a wonderfully calm and mindful activity and it means you can choose your absolute favourites to include. Popping the bowl in the fridge to chill for a while before eating makes it even more refreshing.

Try earthing

Earthing is the practise of being in direct contact with the earth’s surface. This could involve walking outside barefoot, sitting or lying on the grass, paddling in the sea or outdoor swimming. Research shows that this popular summer time activity has a whole host of benefits including releasing tension, improving sleep, boosting our immune system and generally leaving us feeling calm and relaxed.

Get active

There are so many fun ways to get active outdoors such as going for a bike ride, canoeing, sea swimming, beach volleyball, tennis, cricket, rounders or even enjoying a game of frisbee. Whatever sporting activity you choose, requires a great deal of concentration which can help to take your mind off the stresses of modern life. Just remember to dress appropriately and wear sunscreen.

Attend an outdoor event

Most towns and cities offer a range of outdoor events over the summer to suit different ages and tastes. Your local newspaper and council webpages should provide all of the information you need about what’s on. This year in Sunderland there are outdoor music concerts at our football stadium, a food and drink festival, plus a dance party in the city centre featuring local DJ sets and a range of other musical artists. There’s also a pride event which includes a parade and lots of other colourful and fun activities. Slightly further afield, there are a number of open air theatre events which include Jane Austen’s Emma, A Midsummer Night’s Dream and a family friendly adaptation of The Secret Garden. The National Trust Website is a good place to find our about a range of outdoor theatrical events.

Play a lawn game

There are so many fun outdoor games you can play either in your back garden, if you have one, or on the grass at your local park. There’s giant versions of popular indoor favourites such as garden dominoes, giant Jenga and lawn darts, plus other options you might have tried out as a kid like swingball, quoits, bean bag challenges and croquet. You could even have a get together with family or friends and hold a tournament!

Make a summer scrapbook or Traveller’s Notebook journal

Creating a scrapbook or Traveler’s Notebook journal is a wonderful way to document all of the fun things you did over the summer. Each time you do something on your bucket list, take a photo or two to capture it and make a note of how you felt and anything funny or particularly memorable that happened. It’s up to you whether you dedicate a few hours to working on your memory keeping each week or spend a whole day getting creative. You can also add other souvenirs such as tickets, postcards, packaging, maps or leaflets from places you went, pressed flowers, mini printed out book covers of novels you read etc.

Final words…

So there we have it, fifteen relaxing and enjoyable activities to try this summer. Let me know in the comments which ones appeal the most and if you have any further ideas, I would love to hear them.

Enjoy your summer of happy memory making,

Posted in CBT, compassion, lifestyle, mental health, Setting goals and intentions, wellbeing, wellness

Monday Matters: Nine ways to make your day amazing

Posted on by Laura

As I shared in a previous post, I’ve started using The Five Minute Journal morning and evening as a way to be more grateful, live with intention, remain positive and just generally have a good day, every day, no matter what. One of the prompts for early morning is to decide on three things that would make today great and list them. At first, when I started using the journal, the temptation was to just write my ‘must do’s’ from my ever lengthening to-do list as a way of being and feeling super productive. However, what I think is much more valuable (and a key idea with the book) is to think about ways in which you can upgrade your day by considering things such as be present (mindfulness), doing things that really matter to you (based on your core values + current goals and intentions) and finding time for or creating habits which give your body and mind what they really need to improve both your physical and mental health and therefore your general wellbeing. So, today, I’m going to share nine ways to improve your day by figuring out your current priorities, doing things that align with your core values, instilling positive habits, re-phrasing self talk and making meaningful progress towards your short term / medium term / life goals, desires and intentions.

Of course, I do realise that, every now and then, events happen in our day which contribute to uncomfortable emotions such as those associated with anger, fear, sadness and disgust and that sometimes, it becomes difficult to remain positive or optimistic. However, I hope that by sharing these suggestions, I will be helping you to learn simple ways to create high vibe states such as peace, joy, gratitude, enthusiasm, optimism, hope and happiness and recognise the effect that these can have on your day. As you create and maintain healthier habits, you should also notice that you spend less time dwelling on negative events and situations and more time celebrating the positives and recognising all that is good in your life.

Today, I’m sharing nine ways to improve your day-to-day but I’m sure, when you think about it, you’ll be able to come up with many more ideas for upgrading from an okay day, to one which leaves you feeling satisfied that you’re living your best life.

Be present

Being present is a state of mindfulness where we slow down and bring awareness to what is right in front of us and what is happening in the current moment. By focusing on the here and now, we’re not dwelling on the past (sometimes referred to as rumination) or worrying about the future. This can help us feel calmer and more relaxed. It can also have a positive impact on our relationships, make it easier for us to manage stress and relieve mental health symptoms such as anxiety and depression.

Bringing you attention to and staying in the current moment is a skill that everyone can develop but it does take a lot of practice and can, at times, be really difficult. However, it’s definitely worth persevering if you want to experience the above benefits. To get started, give this blog post a read.

Consider what really matters and take action

Have you ever sat down and seriously reflected on what really matters to you right now? If you haven’t, I can highly recommend taking some time to do this as it can provide a useful starting point to help you decide where to make changes in your life for the better. I find that the best way to do this is to look at a comprehensive list of personal, professional or core values and make a note of those which particularly resonate most with you. Then, when you’ve selected those which matter the most, you can either continue to make time for these things, think about new habits to work on instilling or work on better aligning your behaviour to fit with your current priorities. So, for example, you might decide that having fun with your partner is really important to you and something you want to make more time for in your relationship. Then, you might list fun activities you’ve enjoyed in the past e.g. going to a comedy show, playing mini golf, spending the day at the seaside paddling in the sea, building sandcastles and eating ice cream, and some you’d like to try in the future e.g. canoeing, a Segway tour, exploring the night sky at an observatory, taking a road trip to somewhere new or go camping.

Get your body moving.

I’m sure you already know the benefits of exercise for your mind and body but adding movement to your day doesn’t necessarily mean hitting the gym for an hour. Here’s some quick and easy ways to raise your pulse rate:

  • check out this webpage for some easy stretches you can do in the morning before you even leave your bed
  • put on your favourite upbeat track and dance around your bedroom / kitchen / living room
  • take a quick power walk around the block in your lunch break
  • find a 10 minute ‘no equipment’ exercise routine on YouTube to have a go at. Add those you enjoy to your favourites.
  • Do some gentle stretching exercises throughout your day to ease tension and improve your circulation, flexibility, blood flow and posture. Try focusing on areas of your body where you typically hold tension such as your neck, shoulders and upper back. The NHS website has plenty of ideas – try searching ‘NHS flexibility’.

Do a little cleaning, tidying or decluttering

Doing a little bit of cleaning, tidying or decluttering each day can provide a real mood boost and a sense of satisfaction when you admire what you’ve achieved. It doesn’t have to be a long or arduous task, but just taking five or ten minutes can make a difference. You might give your kitchen worktops a deep clean, choose just one drawer or shelf in your kitchen to re-organised or decide to check through your make up bag for products which are past their best or haven’t been used in a while. Over time, these short, focused ‘projects’ will help you to create and maintain a home that you’re super proud of and, if you want an easy way to measure your progress, I recommend taking a quick before and after snap on your phone so you can see what a difference you’ve made – you could even store the ‘after’ photos in a digital folder called ‘my lovely home’!

Practice gratitude

I’ve talked about the importance of being grateful for the things and people you have in your life in a number of previous blog post and the benefits of a daily gratitude practice are well documented. The morning part of The Five Minute Journal asks you to record three things that you are grateful for and, I’ve found that I know find it so easy to fill in. I also find myself expressing my gratitude in my thoughts throughout the day on a regular basis. So, for example today, I was a little annoyed that I had to get the washing off the line as it started raining as soon I’d finished hanging it out but I was glad I had to because it rained much heavier whilst I was at my Zumba class. I was also grateful that I’d made the decision to pop on my raincoat to wear to the gym as the rain became torrential before the end of my class.

If you want to start a gratitude practice but you’re not sure how, check out this blog post which gives my best tips as well as discussing the benefits of developing a consistent daily habit.

Learn something new

Making time in your routine to learn something new each day is not only a wonderful workout for your brain, it’s also an effective way of reducing stress and calming your body down. Acquiring new information on a topic of interest or developing your skills in a particular area promotes self- improvement and personal growth and can really boost your self esteem and confidence. What you set out to learn and how you do it is really up to you but it’s a good idea to spend some time quietly thinking about subjects of interest and jotting them down in a notebook e.g. money management, particular hobbies, creative writing and animal welfare, things you’d like to know more about e.g. eco friendly cleaning solutions, a particular country or place you’d love to visit, British history, and skills you’d like to work on e.g. cooking, drawing, leadership, time-management and so on. Once you’ve done this, you can then schedule time for learning and begin to collect a bank of useful resources e.g. books, online articles, videos, in person or online classes etc.

Replace ‘I have to…’ with ‘I get to…’ and consider other aspects of your self talk

On the subject of being grateful for what you have, another way you can work on altering your mindset in a positive way is to begin to notice when ‘I have to…’ pops into your head and change it to ‘I get to…’ So, rather than saying ‘I have to go to work’, you would rephrase it as ‘I get to go to work’ focusing on the fact that you have the opportunity rather than it being an obligation.

In a similar vein, statements such as ‘I need to…’, ‘I have to…’ or ‘I should…’ can create pressure and an expectation to perform, whereas better self talk could include ‘I would like to…’, ‘I might…’ or ‘it would be good if…’ e.g. rather than ‘I need to get that washing up done because it’s piling up’ you could say ‘It would be good if I did the washing up now so that the kitchen is clean and tidy for making dinner’. (Find out more by reading this blog post from a few years back.)

Find time for things you love

I believe that setting aside time to do something you love each day is super important if you want to feel a sense of satisfaction with your life. Again, writing down activities you enjoy or get value from and recording a short explanation of why can help. Here’s some examples from my personal list to give you some ideas:

  • bird watching
  • nature walks
  • reading health and wellbeing magazines
  • watching psychological thrillers on TV (or reading them on my Kindle)
  • playing card and board games
  • making sweet treats such as flapjack, cookies or cupcakes
  • doing 1000 piece jigsaws
  • playing Angry Birds 2, Candy Crush and Word Cookies on my tablet
  • hand lettering with my brush pens
  • painting my nails
  • using my watercolours

Avoid distractions and information overload

My final tip for making the most of your time and having a great day, is to minimise sources of distraction and develop ways to prevent information overload. I would say that the most common source of distraction and productivity killer comes from modern technology and presents itself in the form of notifications such as text messages, emails or social media happenings (such as tweets, status updates on Facebook, Instagram stories and photo shares, YouTube video postings and so on) and often a combination of all three. I don’t consider myself an expert on avoiding such distractions but this is what I’m trying at the moment:

  • two email addresses – one for work related emails for my Etsy shop, blog and university work with notifications for messages from actual people (rather than organisationd) going to my Fitbit watch during the day, the other for all other emails such as those from businesses with notifications turned off. If I’ve placed an online order and want to track progress, I just use the search facility to find the relevant information.
  • keep my phone in another room whilst I’m working (whether that’s on my shop, my blog, gardening, housework etc)
  • turning off social media notifications and then setting aside a small amount of time each day to ‘check in’
  • avoiding looking at my phone during my 5 minute Pomodoro Technique breaks

In terms of information overload, there are some useful tips contained in this blog post including how to consider the type of content you wish to engage depending on your current priorities.

Final words…

I’ve found The Five Minute Journal really useful in helping me to decide what my priorities are for that particular day and in thinking about what would turn my week days and weekend days from just okay or average to great or amazing. Whether you use this journal system or not, spending a few minutes each morning in mindful contemplation in relation to the above can make such a difference to your day.

I hope you have taken away something useful from your reading and I would love to hear any thoughts or additional ideas you may have in the comments.

Posted in mental health, Mindfulness, wellbeing, wellness

Monday Matters: Practical ways to improve your wellbeing by unlocking the power of the vagus nerve

Posted on by Laura

NB: This post was originally published in September 2019 and updated for April 2023

In 2019, as part of my ongoing therapy, I attended a weekly compassion group where I met up with like-minded individuals to consider different aspects of wellbeing and a variety of techniques for improved mental health. For one of the sessions, we spent time learning about the vagus nerve and its impact on overall health. I must admit, I hadn’t previously heard of this important bundle of fibres so I was really interested to find out as much as I could (I love every opportunity to learn something new). So, in today’s post, I’ll look at what the vagus nerve is, what it does and ways in which you can stimulate it to support good mental health.

Introducing the vagus nerve (a.k.a. the tenth cranial nerve)

The vagus nerve is the longest of our cranial nerves (the ones which emerge straight from our brain) and controls our inner nerve centre. It oversees a range of crucial functions, communicating motor and sensory impulses to each organ of our body – namely our heart, lungs, upper digestive tract, and other organs of the chest and abdomen. The vagus nerve is critical to our overall health and it has been scientifically proven that stimulating this important bundle of motor and sensory fibres is key to reducing our stress, anxiety and anger levels.

So, enough of the science lesson, what are the practical ways that we can get this thing working to our advantage?

breathe deeply and slowly

Slow and deep breathing stimulates the vagus nerve in a way that can help reduce our heart rate and enable us to become more relaxed. That’s why focusing on your breath during mini meditations can be so soothing for us and is a key part of compassion based therapy. You can find out more about different types of breathing in this useful post from verywellmind, especially the diaphragmatic style which is also known as deep breathing.

exercise

Regular exercise such as a gentle walk or some simple stretches stimulates gut flow which is regulated by your vagus nerve. Why not combine your walk with getting in touch with nature so you can stimulate all of your senses and enjoy some peace and quiet at the same time?

have a good laugh

There’s a reason behind the popular saying ‘laughter is the best medicine’. Proper belly laughs are thought to be great for stimulating the vagus nerve. Why not try going to a comedy show, playing some humourous videos on YouTube or TikTok (haven’t ventured onto TikTok myself but I’m pretty sure there’s some funny content on there!) or watching an episode of your favourite funny TV series tonight? There’s even a thing called ‘laughter therapy’ according to a counsellor I used to see, although I’ve never tried it myself!

try getting yourself all cold!

Apparently any type of exposure to cold will increase vagus nerve activation. That’s why some people swear by having a cold shower first thing in the morning to get going! Personally I prefer a little cold water on my face or a nice cold glass of water to wake myself up but it’s entirely up to you how you expose yourself to a little bit of coldness!

Sing or chant

As a member of a choir, I love singing and find it really helps my wellbeing. Now I know why! Why not trying putting on your favourite music and singing along (and maybe do a little boogie as well for the exercise) to activate your vagus nerve? Chanting also works too so no wonder football fans feel so good when they shout for their team at matches.

Massage

A nice neck massage is a lovely way to stimulate the vagus nerve or why not try a foot massage to help lower your heart rate and blood pressure. I love it when my husband does a firm massage of my feet after a long day when we’re sat together watching TV. If you haven’t got an obliging partner, a session with a qualified masseuse makes a fantastic pampering treat if you can afford it.

Positive social contact

Being socially connected, be it with compassionate friends, family or even our beloved pets has been shown to help with emotional regulation though vagal stimulation. Make sure that you choose to spend time with kind hearted and thoughtful people to ensure a positive experience.

Reduce your consumption of junk food

I’m sure you already know that eating too much fatty stuff is bad for you but excess consumption of ‘junk food’ has been shown to reduce the sensitivity of your vagus nerve. The occasional treat is okay but try not to indulge too often.

Yoga and Tai Chi

The benefits of practises such as yoga and Tai Chi are well documented. They have both been shown to increase vagus nerve activity and your parasympathetic (also known as rest and digest) system in general. You can find many simple yoga sequences online and beginner classes of exercises are widely available if you want to make it a social event too.

And finally, try to make time to relax each and every day

It’s up to you what form that relaxation takes, a nice warm bath, a few uninterrupted chapters of your favourite novel, craft or art activities or settling down to watch a film. Find something relaxing to do each day will have a positive effect on your wellbeing by working your vagus nerve.

Final words…

I hope you’ve found today’s post interesting and have learnt something new. Let me know if you try any of the ideas and if they have a positive effect on your wellbeing as a result. I learnt so much during my compassion group therapy and I’m continuing to work hard to put things into practice to improve my wellbeing. Updating this has encouraged me to look back over the handouts we received to remind myself of the various ideas and techniques from the ten week course.

Until next time, look after yourself.

Posted in life hacks, mental health, productivity, wellbeing

Monday Matters: Information overload and 5 helpful ways to deal with it

Posted on by Laura
Photo credit: Abigail Keenan for Unsplash

In our current society, information overload has become a real issue for many, if not all of us and one which can seriously impact our mental and physical health and general wellbeing. In today’s Monday Matters, I’m going to consider what is meant by the term, discuss ways in which an information-rich environment can affect us and present 5 ways you can make it easier to deal with.

Put simply, information overload is when we are faced with so much information (much of it irrelevant to us) that our brains become overstimulated and we find it impossible to fully process it all. If I were to make a list of all of the types of information we’re bombarded with every day for most of us it would include texts, emails, news articles, search engine results, news broadcasts, advertisements: online – via banners, pop ups, game and social media interruptions, on TV, radio and on billboards, notifications from social media, the stuff we read as we mindlessly scroll through the aforementioned social media, telephone calls, radio shows, TV programmes, blog articles, discussions in meetings, with customers, colleagues or other acquaintances – the list goes on and you’re probably exhausted after reading just this sentence. All of this can lead to feelings of overwhelm, stress, inadequacy, anxiety, confusion, exhaustion and a general lack of control. It can also result in physical health symptoms such as headaches, increased blood pressure, vision problems and insomnia. It can affect our work quality, decision making, memory, efficiency, self esteem, confidence and sleep.

With that list of unwanted side effects of information overload, it’s pretty vital that we find ways to cope with and control what we consume each day. Hopefully the following tips will help.

Make your morning routine tech free

When I say tech free, I don’t mean giving up on using your alarm clock to wake up, lights to see clearly, or your heating to keep yourself warm, but avoiding the use of communication devices such as your phone, tablet, laptop and TV can help make your morning routine both mindful and productive but also a relaxing and stress free one. On my best days, I will wake up using my new Sunrise alarm clock (so I don’t immediately have to pick up my phone) and fill in my 5 minute journal. I’ll then make myself a healthy breakfast of wholewheat cereal with soya milk, a piece of fruit, a glass of squash to take my morning medications and my first cup of coffee of the day. Whilst eating and drinking, I try to focus on being mindful, showing gratitude for what I’m consuming, thinking about the nutritional content and how this will fuel my body, and not allowing anything to distract me from the process. Next, whilst I’m finishing my coffee, I begin reading, highlighting and completing journalling tasks in my current non-fiction book. At the moment I’m reading Manifest by Roxie Nafousi and I have the hardback edition which feels good in my hands and makes it much easier to mark important points, annotate or complete tasks. My reading lasts for around 20 minutes and is another quiet, slow and relaxed element of my routine. Finally, I’ll get myself ready in the usual way by showering, brushing my teeth, washing my face and doing my skincare before starting on my tasks for the day.

As I said earlier, the above is followed on my best days when my morning routine is a mindful and relaxing start to my day. However, on some days (thankfully not very often since evaluating and making changes), I will pick up my phone, check notifications from in the night, view the content from these, look through my emails, go on YouTube to see if there’s any new videos from vloggers I subscribe to and then watch the content, check the news, pop on Facebook to wish friends or family members a happy birthday (and then start looking at my feed) before taking a second to breathe and think about all of the ideas, things on my to do list and random stuff which is filling my mind from all of the information I’ve already consumed before I’ve even finished my coffee (which I’ve probably barely even tasted!). So, which routine would you prefer to give you a good start to your day?

Of course, I’m not saying that my personal routine would suit everyone, and I’m conscious that some of you will have responsibilities towards others or an early work start, but I think we can all benefit from a calmer, more peaceful and mindful start to our day.

Think about the content you wish to engage with and why

There are certain types of information which we have little or no control over. For example you might tire of listening to your boss and other members of senior management talking about targets or sending you long-winded emails, your colleagues might frustrate you by regularly interrupting you from your flow of work to ask questions etc. but you can’t really tell them that you’re going to ignore them for a week and stop attending meetings because you’re trying to feel less overwhelmed by all of the information you consume (well you could but I’m pretty sure you would be waving bye bye to your job pretty soon). However, outside of work, we can generally make choices and set boundaries which help to limit our exposure to information. Here’s some ideas to think about:

Focus on your current interests Choose content from a reliable source which is relevant to your current interests. For example, you might read non-fiction texts and watch videos about watercolour painting because it’s something you enjoy doing in your free time and want to get better at. You might search for Pinterest content which shows Spring outfit and fashion ideas because you want some ideas on how to update your wardrobe. Or, you might search online for exercise ideas from qualified instructors which focus on building core strength because you’ve heard it will help to improve your posture and make you more toned.

Consider your goals Think about your current aspirations, desires and goals to help you decide what kind of information will benefit you in the long term. For example, if you want to work on creating a vegetable garden so you can enjoy your homegrown produce in your meals, you will probably want to read articles in magazines or online from from reputable sources such as Gardener’s World or RHS. You might also plan to watch YouTube videos for planting tips or buy a comprehensive guide to making the most of your plot. The key is to live in alignment with your current priorities whilst making choices which reflect you values and beliefs.

Ignore information and media content which doesn’t make you feel good Think about the effect certain information has on your mood. For example, if reading and watching local or national news makes you feel sad, angry, frustrated or anxious, try to limit your exposure or try avoiding it for a while and see how you feel (if there’s anything major happening in the world or your local community, you’re certain to hear about it somewhere and then you can find out more if you need to). If looking at your friend’s social media feed makes you feel inadequate and as though your life is uninteresting and uneventful, try giving it a miss for a while. Similarly, if you follow content creators on YouTube who always appear to be super-organised, productive and well put together and it makes you feel like your life is an absolute mess or that you’re a domestic slattern, it might be time to unsubscribe.

Remember, social media is designed to be addictive The designers of social media platforms and the teams running them want you to spend hours scrolling and thrive on the fact that you keep coming back for more. That’s why it’s so hard to cut down or stop. In their book Make Time, Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky refer to these apps, and other sources of ever updating information, as infinity pools, which provide constant distraction from what we would actually like to focus our time on each day. If you struggle with productivity issues or decisions about what to prioritise in your life, their book is well worth a read. For now, try spending a little time reflecting on your current social media usage, asking yourself questions such as:

  • How do I feel after using (insert S.M. platform)? Why?
  • What times of day do I find myself using S.M.?
  • How much of my time per day / week is spent on S.M.? (Some mobile phones can track this for you and compare your usage over consecutive weeks)
  • What impact does my S.M. usage have on my mental health? Do I feel more connected with others who share my interests or inspired by the content I consume? Alternatively, does it leave me with feelings of isolation, inadequacy, dissatisfaction, loneliness (and anything else that makes you uncomfortable)?
  • Would I describe my social media habits as unhealthy? e.g. is it the first thing I think about when I wake up or do I scroll just before or in bed and end up not being able to sleep?

Make a plan to take control of the information you choose to consume before it takes control of you!

Turn off your notifications and alerts

One of the easiest and most effective ways to reduce the volume of information that comes your way is by turning off notifications and alerts from the various social media platforms and apps you use. Again, you should think about whether the notifications and alerts are a distraction or are useful for you. So, for example, I have a star gazing app and I quite like the messages I’m sent a few times a week which tell me about particular celestial bodies that can be viewed that night and opening the app shows us where to find them in the sky. I also get an alert which reminds me to fill in by Bipolar mood tracker each evening as it’s important for me to see what affect different events or activities have on my mood and wellbeing. Of my two email accounts, one is for professional and important stuff like work related opportunities, Etsy shop sales or messages from customers etc., whilst the other is for all the random marketing emails from various shops and companies which I don’t want to be notified of throughout the day. For online orders that I’ve placed, I’ve found there is the option on Yahoo Mail to received notifications of dispatch and delivery information. I’m not quite sure how it works but I presume it searches for key words within the emails.

The second thing you can do is go into your phone settings and set up a ‘do not disturb’ when you are busy (which you turn off at a time of your choosing) and a sleeping schedule which means that after a selected time in the evening and before a chosen time in the morning, your phone does not send notifications of any kind. You can alter this so that alarms can still go off if you need any reminders. For example, I have an alarm set to remind me to take my evening medications and another one to remind me to book my exercise class for the next week when it gets to 10.15pm (annoyingly, if I don’t book straightaway the class fills up with 1 minute of going live!).

Take a break (away from social media)

I’ve discussed before how I use the Pomodoro technique to be productive during the day but one of the most important aspects of the method is taking regular breaks. It’s tempting to check in with social media at these times but I make a point of doing something different so I’m not still looking at a screen and I don’t end up losing track of time. Some ideas for activities to do in your break include:

  • get outside or open a window and inhale some fresh air
  • do a mini meditation
  • listen to some music with your eyes closed or have a little boogie
  • make a hot or cold drink
  • enjoy a healthy snack
  • read a book or magazine
  • do some doodling / colouring in
  • do some stretches
  • declutter your workspace

Do a brain dump

If you feel like you’re drowning in thoughts, feelings, ideas and to-dos, it’s a good idea to get it all out on paper. This is the idea behind a ‘brain dump’, where you free write everything that is currently on your mind onto a blank sheet in a format of your choosing – in long hand, note form, spider diagram style etc. and it can be a powerful way to relieve stress. When you’ve finished, you can decide what to do with all the information – do you need to add something to your calendar or schedule in a time to explore further? might you need to add a few things to your to do list for the next week? would you benefit from talking to someone about how you’re feeling? maybe you need to seek out some positive news stories or make plans for a self care day or a weekend away?

Final words…

I hope you have found today’s tips helpful and feel inspired to try some of them as a way to improve your health and wellbeing. If you do give any of the suggestions a go, I would love to hear how you get on. I know that it can be tempting to consume as much information as you can through the fear of missing out (FOMO) but remember that a lot of what’s out there is neither useful, helpful, relevant or worthy of your time so try and adopt the joy of missing out (JOMO) approach instead!